This blog is entitled “Talking Among Friends” for a reason. I want it to be a safe place to talk about friendships, relationships and life in general. Originally, this blog started out as “Rebecca’s Journey,” where I wrote about my experience with cancer.
After a while, I didn’t want to talk about cancer any more. Life started again, and I wanted to break away from that dreadful disease. Relationships are what matter in this life, whether it’s your relationship with God, your family, and your spouse and kids.
Sadly, cancer is still a fact of life for friends around me. It’s much too prevalent in this world, and I’m sure we all know someone who has had cancer or even passed away from this awful disease.
A friend of mine is recovering now, and has finished all of her treatments of chemotherapy and radiation. She’s finding her way back. At a recent gathering of friends, her first in a long time, she said something that struck me. In the midst of her treatment, all she could do was sleep and focus on getting through it day-by-day. During that time, she said she couldn’t even pray.
For those of us who can’t get through the day without praying, even sending up the so-called “arrow prayers,” then we know what a dark place she was in.
As her friends, we had been rallying around her as best we could, in whatever way we could. Mostly, by prayer, emails and phone calls.
She also said something else. She said, “Others held me up when I couldn’t.”
Talk about the power of community and friendship! She could feel our support for her. When I was fighting cancer, I could also feel the prayers of many. What a comfort that was and how helpful it was in my own recovery.
Can you imagine not having friends or any type of community around you?
When life throws us curve balls, or when you’re celebrating a joyous occasion, how would it feel to celebrate alone? Or to face the darkness alone?
We all get busy with our own families and careers, but it is so important to take the time to find that community, that fellowship and friendships in which to share your life.
We all need to make the effort, me included, to reach out more or deepen the friendships with those already in our lives.
What are you doing to take the time for friends? To find that community?