Being Positive, Even on a Bad Day

I’m feeling like a bit of a louse recently. Whether I can cite the excuse of the holidays, or how busy work is, or whatever, those reasons don’t excuse poor behavior.

I was unintentionally sharp with someone, who didn’t deserve my attitude, and who happened to be on the receiving end of a bad day.

We’re all guilty of snapping at someone who was just in the way of our bad mood. But because we all may understand that doesn’t make it right, and now I feel like a heel.

I’ve done what I can to rectify the situation. But that impression of me and my actions are still out there and still affected this person.

No matter how nice I will be going forward, does this person I treated poorly have a long memory or will my actions always be part of how they treat me going forward?

I can’t take it back.

What lessons can be learned?

First – the golden rule still applies: Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. In other words, treat others with kindness. In fact, I love the phrase “kill them with kindness.” If someone is being rude and having a bad day, the best way to diffuse the situation is to stay calm and treat them with kindness.

I’ve found the yelling or matching their level of rudeness only escalates the situation.

Second – the other lesson I’ve learned is to be forgiving. It is true that if you hold a grudge against someone, even if they are in the wrong, you’re the only one who continues to be hurt. You’re not hurting them by holding that grudge and by remaining angry.

We all need to “Let Go and Let God.”

God needs to work through me to make me aware of my actions and how those actions affect others. My thoughts, actions and words can have a positive influence or a negative influence.

When I had that bad day recently and exhibited poor behavior to someone else, I may have hurt them, but I’ve also hurt myself.

The whole conversation would’ve turned out different had I been able to hold my tongue, answered their questions and moved on, instead of lashing out at them.

Taking a deep breath, not having a snap response, especially when it’s not a good day, can make all the difference…not just to someone else, but to myself as well.

To the person to whom I snapped, I hope they forgive me. And I hope I show that same spirit of forgiveness the next time someone else has a bad day and snaps at me.

How do you handle your bad days? What do you say when you do have a bad day and have hurt others?

How do you show a spirit of forgiveness?

I’d love to hear from you so maybe we can all help each other be a positive influence.

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Rebecca Yauger

Becky is a writer and blogger. She's a three time contributor to various Chicken Soup for the Soul books and writes about real friendship and relationships, and all the ties that bond us. She's the former Web Manager and Vice-President for ACFW ( Becky is a proud wife, mother, grandmother and 3-time cancer survivor.

2 thoughts on “Being Positive, Even on a Bad Day”

  1. Well, you are speaking to me. I have recently done the exact thing you referenced. Once I calmed myself down, I went to the person and asked them to forgive me and without making excuses I stated that I had no right to react like I did. It was wrong and uncalled for. The other person seemed stunned that I had done this and then asked me if they could help me with what was bothering me. Then I was stunned. Why would they care after what I had done? They had every right to be very upset with me and instead, were gracious and willing to listen while I discussed what was bothering me. Nevertheless, I had completely embarrassed and humiliated myself and the other person was covered in my venom. Since that incident, I am working harder to keep my emotions out of conversations, especially at work. It messes up and complicates relationships. Then, I deal with my emotions when I leave the office, usually in prayer as I drive home. Since that time, the other person and I have learned better ways to approach each other. What a wonderful result.


    1. Cheryl,
      Thanks for stopping by. Forgive the delay in responding to your comment. Your story is a wonderful example of being kind at all times. The person who asked if they could help after being the one that was in your line of fire early shows us by example how Christ-like we should be and how that situation completely turned around for all involved. I love that!

      And bravo to you for being brave enough to apologize, knowing that person could’ve been venomous back to you.

      One of my favorite sayings is “Kill ’em with kindness.” It’s amazing how a calm manner can diffuse a situation. Wish I was always successful in that but at least it’s something to strive for.

      Thanks again, Cheryl. Have a blessed 2015.


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